Reformed Theology [Advice request] Struggling with baptism.  Calvinism

[Advice request] Struggling with baptism.

Reformed Theology [Advice request] Struggling with baptism.  Calvinism
[Advice request] Struggling with baptism.

Hey guys, I'm struggling with the topic of baptism. I was baptized as an infant (non-reformed upbringing) and my wife was baptized as an adult in a lutheran church (which means sprinkling, not immersion).

We currently attend a non-confessional reformed baptist church. Because of the mode and timing of our baptisms, we cannot become members in our church. This leaves us with 3 options: continue attending our church without official membership, submit to our current church's teaching on baptism and both get baptized, or leave the church for a church where we can become members. We've become very connected with our current church and made a ton of really close friends, which makes the idea of leaving very difficult for us. This is why we have remained so far. It has been a bit of a painful point for us though that we are unable to become members of the church, and are unable to serve in certain capacities. We recently had a baby as well and that complicates the matter of us staying even further.

As for our actual position on baptism, we are on the fence but lean towards infant baptism. At this point I feel that understand both reformed paedo and credo positions fairly well, but find myself unable to find either compelling enough to agree with certainty and I'm finding a lot of difficulty committing one way or the other. I do firmly believe that acting on the wrong side would mean acting in sin (by either refusing to get baptized, or getting baptized again and refusing to baptize my children), but I still haven't been able to reach the point of discernment where I can tell which one would be correct. I know that God will show grace (which is saving me from a massive amount of anxiety over this) but at the same time I really desire to honor him in making the correct decision.

The one thing I know I believe for certain is that the requirement of immersion for baptism is un-biblical, which would prevent us from getting membership regardless of where we land on the credo/paedo position.

I'm not necessarily looking for arguments for or against either, but I would really appreciate some advice on how we should come to a conclusion and what to do as far as church attendance/membership

Hey guys, I’m struggling with the topic of baptism. I was baptized as an infant (non-reformed upbringing) and my wife was baptized as an adult in a lutheran church (which means sprinkling, not immersion).We currently attend a non-confessional reformed baptist church. Because of the mode and timing of our baptisms, we cannot become members in our church. This leaves us with 3 options: continue attending our church without official membership, submit to our current church’s teaching on baptism and both get baptized, or leave the church for a church where we can become members. We’ve become very connected with our current church and made a ton of really close friends, which makes the idea of leaving very difficult for us. This is why we have remained so far. It has been a bit of a painful point for us though that we are unable to become members of the church, and are unable to serve in certain capacities. We recently had a baby as well and that complicates the matter of us staying even further.As for our actual position on baptism, we are on the fence but lean towards infant baptism. At this point I feel that understand both reformed paedo and credo positions fairly well, but find myself unable to find either compelling enough to agree with certainty and I’m finding a lot of difficulty committing one way or the other. I do firmly believe that acting on the wrong side would mean acting in sin (by either refusing to get baptized, or getting baptized again and refusing to baptize my children), but I still haven’t been able to reach the point of discernment where I can tell which one would be correct. I know that God will show grace (which is saving me from a massive amount of anxiety over this) but at the same time I really desire to honor him in making the correct decision.The one thing I know I believe for certain is that the requirement of immersion for baptism is un-biblical, which would prevent us from getting membership regardless of where we land on the credo/paedo position.I’m not necessarily looking for arguments for or against either, but I would really appreciate some advice on how we should come to a conclusion and what to do as far as church attendance/membership
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