Reformed Theology Bad Leadership  Calvinism

Bad Leadership

Reformed Theology Bad Leadership  Calvinism
Bad Leadership

About 2 years ago I became a Youth Group Leader at my Church. The then Youth Pastor stepped down and the role wasn't filled so me and my team ran the show ourselves happy as Larry. Eventually another staff member at the Church began to have an involvement and now he has been given an official role as 'Family Worker' which encompasses the youth group- which he has a particular interest in.

Anyway, he's a great guy with a good heart but his leadership is sub-par. The main concern from us leaders is that he doesn't tell us stuff. He makes a lot of executive decisions without consulting those on the ground first or at least giving us a heads up. We often find out what's going on via Facebook at the same time as the youth.

Recently however, he and the pastor made the executive decision to bring two new people on our team. We have hardly met the people and don't know much about them, and as usual we found out via Facebook. Now we don't mind new people, we are happy for more people to join the team. I sent him a short message explaining that I felt it would have been respectful and polite to include us leaders in that discussion or at least give us a heads up before making anything official. Clearly, disgruntled by this he replied basically admitting that he doesn't have to ask us because he is in charge. He also explained his haste in the decision because he doesn't want to miss an opportunity and that's what it means to be a leader (funnily enough I found out he had told another leader about this a week before the announcement).

To sum, our leadership isn't telling us anything and making executive decisions without our knowing. There are other issues I am noticing, like his desire to be cool (He is in his late 30s), he has been talking more 'hip' and he has just bought a new wardrobe of 'youngster' clothing with ripped denim cuffed pants and white vans. He also very often claims that God has told him to do something, which means we aren't really allowed to disagree with him.

How should I proceed? I've already told him how I feel and the response wasn't very helpful. Do I need to talk to eldership? Just looking for some advice.

Thanks.

About 2 years ago I became a Youth Group Leader at my Church. The then Youth Pastor stepped down and the role wasn’t filled so me and my team ran the show ourselves happy as Larry. Eventually another staff member at the Church began to have an involvement and now he has been given an official role as ‘Family Worker’ which encompasses the youth group- which he has a particular interest in.Anyway, he’s a great guy with a good heart but his leadership is sub-par. The main concern from us leaders is that he doesn’t tell us stuff. He makes a lot of executive decisions without consulting those on the ground first or at least giving us a heads up. We often find out what’s going on via Facebook at the same time as the youth.Recently however, he and the pastor made the executive decision to bring two new people on our team. We have hardly met the people and don’t know much about them, and as usual we found out via Facebook. Now we don’t mind new people, we are happy for more people to join the team. I sent him a short message explaining that I felt it would have been respectful and polite to include us leaders in that discussion or at least give us a heads up before making anything official. Clearly, disgruntled by this he replied basically admitting that he doesn’t have to ask us because he is in charge. He also explained his haste in the decision because he doesn’t want to miss an opportunity and that’s what it means to be a leader (funnily enough I found out he had told another leader about this a week before the announcement).To sum, our leadership isn’t telling us anything and making executive decisions without our knowing. There are other issues I am noticing, like his desire to be cool (He is in his late 30s), he has been talking more ‘hip’ and he has just bought a new wardrobe of ‘youngster’ clothing with ripped denim cuffed pants and white vans. He also very often claims that God has told him to do something, which means we aren’t really allowed to disagree with him.How should I proceed? I’ve already told him how I feel and the response wasn’t very helpful. Do I need to talk to eldership? Just looking for some advice.Thanks.
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