Reformed Theology Biblical Guidance for Divorcée Family  Calvinism

Biblical Guidance for Divorcée Family

Reformed Theology Biblical Guidance for Divorcée Family  Calvinism
Biblical Guidance for Divorcée Family

Hello all,

This is my first time posting in this thread, but I have for a while enjoyed this community's thoughts and support. I'm coming to you all today with an issue with my father-in-law, and his new girlfriend.

My father-in-law met a girl in the Marines, and they made a baby. This pastor's son thankfully did the right thing and took this girl, married her and began supporting his new family in his hometown, eventually having four daughters and one adopted son. However, throughout the years his wife's affairs would occasionally be discovered, and a cycle of pain and forgiveness would continue. Finally, with support of his daughters and sons-in-law (myself included) after the most recent instance about two years ago he asked her to leave him and the young son for a week. During that week she filed for divorce. Matthew 5:32 and other biblical support meant that I never judged him during the ugly process of divorce, and stood by the family through it all. He was severely hurt after constantly attempting to make the marriage work.

Now, he is lonely. Even though three of the four daughters still live with their husbands in his hometown, and his young adopted son is with him 50% of the time, he still is left with an empty house and other frustrations that come with singleness and such. He thought of remarriage, and I withheld my opinion, hoping he would sort things out for himself. (I wasn't entirely sure myself, it isn't a biblical subject I had devoted much time to.) Then, in what feels like an instant, he has declared he is OK with the idea of remarriage, and he has invited all the family to meet a woman who is herself the victim of an adulterous spouse. When he solicited my opinion, I chose to be the wet blanket. My reading of I Corinthians 7 meant I did not feel it acceptable. If we refused an invitation to a homosexual wedding (which we both would) how could I condone any sinful relationship?

I have a feeling most members of our shared church will not protest the relationship, most members aren't overly concerned with inconvenient theology. But most of the family has serious reservations. Before this relationship goes to far, I'm asking my brothers in Christ to guide me on what level of engagement I should have with the new relationship. I obviously love my father-in-law and we have developed a great relationship over the years. He wasn't upset and did respect my opinion when I offered it, but I'm unsure of what to do with this new dinner invitation, and the thought of other invitations coming later.

EDIT: I should add I'm willing to change my whole opinion on the matter, if the evidence is there. Like I said I'm no expert.

Hello all,This is my first time posting in this thread, but I have for a while enjoyed this community’s thoughts and support. I’m coming to you all today with an issue with my father-in-law, and his new girlfriend.My father-in-law met a girl in the Marines, and they made a baby. This pastor’s son thankfully did the right thing and took this girl, married her and began supporting his new family in his hometown, eventually having four daughters and one adopted son. However, throughout the years his wife’s affairs would occasionally be discovered, and a cycle of pain and forgiveness would continue. Finally, with support of his daughters and sons-in-law (myself included) after the most recent instance about two years ago he asked her to leave him and the young son for a week. During that week she filed for divorce. Matthew 5:32 and other biblical support meant that I never judged him during the ugly process of divorce, and stood by the family through it all. He was severely hurt after constantly attempting to make the marriage work.Now, he is lonely. Even though three of the four daughters still live with their husbands in his hometown, and his young adopted son is with him 50% of the time, he still is left with an empty house and other frustrations that come with singleness and such. He thought of remarriage, and I withheld my opinion, hoping he would sort things out for himself. (I wasn’t entirely sure myself, it isn’t a biblical subject I had devoted much time to.) Then, in what feels like an instant, he has declared he is OK with the idea of remarriage, and he has invited all the family to meet a woman who is herself the victim of an adulterous spouse. When he solicited my opinion, I chose to be the wet blanket. My reading of I Corinthians 7 meant I did not feel it acceptable. If we refused an invitation to a homosexual wedding (which we both would) how could I condone any sinful relationship?I have a feeling most members of our shared church will not protest the relationship, most members aren’t overly concerned with inconvenient theology. But most of the family has serious reservations. Before this relationship goes to far, I’m asking my brothers in Christ to guide me on what level of engagement I should have with the new relationship. I obviously love my father-in-law and we have developed a great relationship over the years. He wasn’t upset and did respect my opinion when I offered it, but I’m unsure of what to do with this new dinner invitation, and the thought of other invitations coming later.EDIT: I should add I’m willing to change my whole opinion on the matter, if the evidence is there. Like I said I’m no expert.
Link: Biblical Guidance for Divorcée Family
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