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Family Member Addict, Help

Reformed Theology Family Member Addict, Help  Calvinism
Family Member Addict, Help

My Sister-in-law is an alcoholic and drug addict who abuses and manipulates her family. She's gone to rehab multiple times at the expense of her parents and has decided that she doesn't want to change.

Sister-in-law has called for help in the middle of the night, drunk and high, multiple times to family members to get things, get picked up, random stuff, borrow money, etc. When confronting Sister-in-law about her lies or her behavior, she'll cuss at you or others calling us all liars and generally playing a victim to everyone.

Father-in-law says he can't pay for rehab again, he really can't afford it as they are struggling to get by. She wouldn't take it if he could. Mother-in-law is bed-ridden from a medical condition and doesn't want her daughter to be excluded from the family. My Wife, Father-in-law, and Brother-in-law have all been taken advantage of and cussed out so many times they don't want to be around her. Now Mother-in-law is mad at everyone but Sister-in-law, because we're not being Christian. There is a real divide in our family. My soft-spoken Wife takes care of bed-ridden Mother-in-law during the day, and it is crushing her that her mom is now so terse with her.

Wife, Father-in-law, and Brother-in-law are all very loving, have gone so far out of their way to help Sister-in-law, but they don't believe that allowing Sister-in-law to keep acting this way is actually loving her. In a way, they believe that they have been enabling her as long as they have been used as a means for her to get more money, drugs, and alcohol.

Sister-in-law doesn't want forgiveness, she just wants victim status. She insists that she is not in the wrong and that she is being treated unfairly. If Father-in-law tries to talk to Sister-in-law about Christ, she begins cussing at him. She wants nothing to do with Christ. Her

What is the Christian viewpoint of a family member who is abusive to your family? What form does God's grace through us look like in this situation? I really hope that she can recover, and I believe that we would all be there to help her when she decides to do that, but that isn't an option for her at this time. We do love her, but I don't think we can reconcile these differences just yet. She hasn't considered the harm she's done to her family and doesn't believe she needs forgiveness in any form. I really think she'll have to hit the bottom before she can get back up.

I'm considering talking to my Wife about going to an Al-Anon meeting, support for family members of drug/alcohol abusers. Prayers, practical advice, and scripture appreciated.

My Sister-in-law is an alcoholic and drug addict who abuses and manipulates her family. She’s gone to rehab multiple times at the expense of her parents and has decided that she doesn’t want to change.Sister-in-law has called for help in the middle of the night, drunk and high, multiple times to family members to get things, get picked up, random stuff, borrow money, etc. When confronting Sister-in-law about her lies or her behavior, she’ll cuss at you or others calling us all liars and generally playing a victim to everyone.Father-in-law says he can’t pay for rehab again, he really can’t afford it as they are struggling to get by. She wouldn’t take it if he could. Mother-in-law is bed-ridden from a medical condition and doesn’t want her daughter to be excluded from the family. My Wife, Father-in-law, and Brother-in-law have all been taken advantage of and cussed out so many times they don’t want to be around her. Now Mother-in-law is mad at everyone but Sister-in-law, because we’re not being Christian. There is a real divide in our family. My soft-spoken Wife takes care of bed-ridden Mother-in-law during the day, and it is crushing her that her mom is now so terse with her.Wife, Father-in-law, and Brother-in-law are all very loving, have gone so far out of their way to help Sister-in-law, but they don’t believe that allowing Sister-in-law to keep acting this way is actually loving her. In a way, they believe that they have been enabling her as long as they have been used as a means for her to get more money, drugs, and alcohol.Sister-in-law doesn’t want forgiveness, she just wants victim status. She insists that she is not in the wrong and that she is being treated unfairly. If Father-in-law tries to talk to Sister-in-law about Christ, she begins cussing at him. She wants nothing to do with Christ. HerWhat is the Christian viewpoint of a family member who is abusive to your family? What form does God’s grace through us look like in this situation? I really hope that she can recover, and I believe that we would all be there to help her when she decides to do that, but that isn’t an option for her at this time. We do love her, but I don’t think we can reconcile these differences just yet. She hasn’t considered the harm she’s done to her family and doesn’t believe she needs forgiveness in any form. I really think she’ll have to hit the bottom before she can get back up.I’m considering talking to my Wife about going to an Al-Anon meeting, support for family members of drug/alcohol abusers. Prayers, practical advice, and scripture appreciated.
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