Reformed Theology For a Man to Grow Beyond Perpetual Adolescence - Rev. Dr. Chuck DeGroat  Calvinism

For a Man to Grow Beyond Perpetual Adolescence – Rev. Dr. Chuck DeGroat

Reformed Theology For a Man to Grow Beyond Perpetual Adolescence - Rev. Dr. Chuck DeGroat  Calvinism
For a Man to Grow Beyond Perpetual Adolescence – Rev. Dr. Chuck DeGroat

For a man to grow beyond perpetual adolescence, there must be some kind of disruption, disorientation, even despair. He must be faced with the inadequacy, even the impossibility of continuing to live as an emotional 12-year-old. These disruptions can be immensely shaming – being caught in an addiction, being confronted by a spouse, facing a health crisis, experiencing failure at work – and sometimes the shame can be so great that the man decides against growing up in favor of continuing the cycle of perpetual adolescence. This is especially the case for men on the narcissistic spectrum, whose defensive compensatory posture avoids exposure at all costs. However, men must go through the initiation they did not receive in their formative adolescent years, a great failure of their fathers and elders. This process of “dying“ is not at all the end, but the beginning of a life of wholeheartedness in which he can truly see and love the other, even the other in himself. It requires great grief and immense courage.

For a man to grow beyond perpetual adolescence, there must be some kind of disruption, disorientation, even despair. He must be faced with the inadequacy, even the impossibility of continuing to live as an emotional 12-year-old. These disruptions can be immensely shaming – being caught in an addiction, being confronted by a spouse, facing a health crisis, experiencing failure at work – and sometimes the shame can be so great that the man decides against growing up in favor of continuing the cycle of perpetual adolescence. This is especially the case for men on the narcissistic spectrum, whose defensive compensatory posture avoids exposure at all costs. However, men must go through the initiation they did not receive in their formative adolescent years, a great failure of their fathers and elders. This process of “dying“ is not at all the end, but the beginning of a life of wholeheartedness in which he can truly see and love the other, even the other in himself. It requires great grief and immense courage.
Link: For a Man to Grow Beyond Perpetual Adolescence – Rev. Dr. Chuck DeGroat
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