Reformed Theology Had a disagreement with my wife -- am I off base?  Calvinism

Had a disagreement with my wife — am I off base?

Reformed Theology Had a disagreement with my wife -- am I off base?  Calvinism
Had a disagreement with my wife — am I off base?

Posting this here because there's no where else I can think of to get feedback I trust.

We're new parents of a five month old boy, and like most parents, we don't see eye to eye on everything.

Yesterday our little boy was given some clothing items as a gift, one of which was a shirt covered in Justice League super heroes. Offhandedly, I mentioned that I would prefer he not wear that shirt.

Cue disagreement.

My wife interpreted this as me, "taking super-heroes away" without ever asking her opinion on the matter. We had a long, difficult discussion about my feelings on the matter, that culminated in me trying to articulate that I don't really like what modern super-heroes represent, and it pains me to envision draping our child in the latest in Marvel and DC marketing campaigns.

Maybe when he's older, and can actually participate in the media storm surrounding these characters I'll feel differently, but not when he's one, two, and three years old. Let him be a kid that plays with sticks and dump-trucks without being bombarded by icons of male power fantasy.

She capitulated, leaving me feeling very guilty for even stating my preference, and this morning I'm struggling internally to make sure what I believe and feel about this is worth the tension it is causing.

I don't want to be unfair, and I want to be gentle and loving with both my wife and son.

Anyone have any thoughts?

Posting this here because there’s no where else I can think of to get feedback I trust.We’re new parents of a five month old boy, and like most parents, we don’t see eye to eye on everything.Yesterday our little boy was given some clothing items as a gift, one of which was a shirt covered in Justice League super heroes. Offhandedly, I mentioned that I would prefer he not wear that shirt.Cue disagreement.My wife interpreted this as me, “taking super-heroes away” without ever asking her opinion on the matter. We had a long, difficult discussion about my feelings on the matter, that culminated in me trying to articulate that I don’t really like what modern super-heroes represent, and it pains me to envision draping our child in the latest in Marvel and DC marketing campaigns.Maybe when he’s older, and can actually participate in the media storm surrounding these characters I’ll feel differently, but not when he’s one, two, and three years old. Let him be a kid that plays with sticks and dump-trucks without being bombarded by icons of male power fantasy.She capitulated, leaving me feeling very guilty for even stating my preference, and this morning I’m struggling internally to make sure what I believe and feel about this is worth the tension it is causing.I don’t want to be unfair, and I want to be gentle and loving with both my wife and son.Anyone have any thoughts?
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