Reformed Theology Need book recommendations (and advice) for a struggling friend  Calvinism

Need book recommendations (and advice) for a struggling friend

Reformed Theology Need book recommendations (and advice) for a struggling friend  Calvinism
Need book recommendations (and advice) for a struggling friend

Hi all! Brief introduction: I am a University student in the UK who discovered reformed theology while I was in a Charismatic church back in Malaysia and have since been more and more convinced of the tenets of reformed theology. Was definitely affected by the YRR movement, but ever since I started attending a presbyterian church here in the UK, I learned that the Reformed tradition is actually more complicated than TULIP!

But I digress! I come here seeking for help. See, one of the people who I used to debate Calvinism with (I was vehemently opposed to it as I was very philosophically inclined) also became one of my best friends because, despite our differences, we both wanted to take Christianity seriously. Now it wasn't so much his intellect that moved me, but how he took sin so seriously and was one of the only people I knew who put all his cards on the table (e.g. confessing all his sins, making known his weaknesses) when taking up leadership positions to ensure that he was being held accountable. He had a very weak appearance, but he was steadfast in affirming sound doctrine and grace. Basically, this guy showed me how we simply cannot understand the grace of God until we have a correct understanding of our sin before God.

However, he got a big scholarship that meant he could go to an elite institution for college and is now in another University in the UK. In the two years in college, he was sent to a remote location without a good church and we didn't really have hearty conversations with each other (but we did play alot of online games together) and although I always tried to ask him how he was doing in his walk with the Lord, something seemed off about him.

Anyway in the summer last year, he finally told me that he has made the decision to be an apostate. Unlike many stories of apostasy, his had nothing to do with intellectual doubts (or at least, very little to do with it). Rather, he cite how he was pursued by a girl in college and despite saying no a few times, he finally gave in. She isn't a Christian. She's a very nice girl, and he has always wanted to have a happy family life given his rough past and he was ultimately lonely (he was separated from good christian friends, and those who kept in contact with him assumed that he was going to be okay given his stature) and just fell in love with the woman. But here's the weird bit: When I confronted him with the question of what he thought happened 2k years ago to the body of Jesus, he still believes that Jesus physically rose from the dead. He still thinks that Christianity best explains reality. He still wants to send his children to church in the future.

Ultimately, he says he left Christ because of 2 reasons: I)When his GF asked him what his choice was, to breakup with her and resolve his inner tensions with Christianity or to stay with her (she's a really nice and understanding girl, met her before), he chose her. He sees this as a public denial of Christ and cannot live with his shame. 2) He really loves this girl, and really wants to marry her since no one has really loved him this much (Sad to say, many of us (his christian friends) really failed to love him…) So he thinks this is willful disobedience against God and therefore he is not a Christian.

Yet, I am not convinced that the Spirit was never with him to begin with. The man still tears up when I remind him of the gospel, how the redeeming work of Christ is bigger than his sin, how Christ loves him in spite of his sin.

Here's the request: His birthday is coming up, and I was thinking of getting a book for him. What would you guys recommend?

Thoughts about his predicament would be appreciated too!

Thanks for reading this long post!

Hi all! Brief introduction: I am a University student in the UK who discovered reformed theology while I was in a Charismatic church back in Malaysia and have since been more and more convinced of the tenets of reformed theology. Was definitely affected by the YRR movement, but ever since I started attending a presbyterian church here in the UK, I learned that the Reformed tradition is actually more complicated than TULIP!

But I digress! I come here seeking for help. See, one of the people who I used to debate Calvinism with (I was vehemently opposed to it as I was very philosophically inclined) also became one of my best friends because, despite our differences, we both wanted to take Christianity seriously. Now it wasn't so much his intellect that moved me, but how he took sin so seriously and was one of the only people I knew who put all his cards on the table (e.g. confessing all his sins, making known his weaknesses) when taking up leadership positions to ensure that he was being held accountable. He had a very weak appearance, but he was steadfast in affirming sound doctrine and grace. Basically, this guy showed me how we simply cannot understand the grace of God until we have a correct understanding of our sin before God.

However, he got a big scholarship that meant he could go to an elite institution for college and is now in another University in the UK. In the two years in college, he was sent to a remote location without a good church and we didn't really have hearty conversations with each other (but we did play alot of online games together) and although I always tried to ask him how he was doing in his walk with the Lord, something seemed off about him.

Anyway in the summer last year, he finally told me that he has made the decision to be an apostate. Unlike many stories of apostasy, his had nothing to do with intellectual doubts (or at least, very little to do with it). Rather, he cite how he was pursued by a girl in college and despite saying no a few times, he finally gave in. She isn't a Christian. She's a very nice girl, and he has always wanted to have a happy family life given his rough past and he was ultimately lonely (he was separated from good christian friends, and those who kept in contact with him assumed that he was going to be okay given his stature) and just fell in love with the woman. But here's the weird bit: When I confronted him with the question of what he thought happened 2k years ago to the body of Jesus, he still believes that Jesus physically rose from the dead. He still thinks that Christianity best explains reality. He still wants to send his children to church in the future.

Ultimately, he says he left Christ because of 2 reasons: I)When his GF asked him what his choice was, to breakup with her and resolve his inner tensions with Christianity or to stay with her (she's a really nice and understanding girl, met her before), he chose her. He sees this as a public denial of Christ and cannot live with his shame. 2) He really loves this girl, and really wants to marry her since no one has really loved him this much (Sad to say, many of us (his christian friends) really failed to love him…) So he thinks this is willful disobedience against God and therefore he is not a Christian.

Yet, I am not convinced that the Spirit was never with him to begin with. The man still tears up when I remind him of the gospel, how the redeeming work of Christ is bigger than his sin, how Christ loves him in spite of his sin.

Here's the request: His birthday is coming up, and I was thinking of getting a book for him. What would you guys recommend?

Thoughts about his predicament would be appreciated too!

Thanks for reading this long post!

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Submitted March 15, 2017 at 11:50AM by curiousitylives94